If you want to sexually touch your child and not attract anyone’s attention don’t tell your child it’s “our little secret” say “We are doing this because you have been a good girl today” associate what you do with being good and her reward for being good this will make it a positive interaction with you and your child, if she has been bad tell her it’s a bad day and don’t touch her. Deep down a child knows a secret is wrong and in the end she will tell someone even if it’s another child who will then tell their parents then your in shit